chibimonnie: (calvin- don't panic)
posted by [personal profile] chibimonnie at 06:02pm on 06/08/2011 under
On Thursday night I had dinner at my parents' with my sister Beth. It was a lot of fun and the food, as always, was delicious. I ended up staying almost 3 hours after Beth left. Dad and I got caught up on the last several months. And then he threw me a curve ball (it's about as athletic as we get in my family. lol).


Dad said that he's finally come to the conclusion that I might never marry and that it is a valid lifestyle. He said he used to worry that I was lonely, but now recognizes that I have my sisters, my parents, and friends. This is kind of huge. Ever since Sarah's first (disastrous) engagement almost ten years ago, he's been nagging me about getting married and settling down. I've gotten to the settling down part and that seems to be enough for him. I've just begun the fourth year in my current apartment- the longest I've lived anywhere since going off to college. He also said something along the lines of "You've had some pretty shitty relationships. But not everyone out there is bad." I agreed. So then he asked if I was interested in something more permanent than an apartment.

Dad put away money for each of the five of us for weddings and first homes. I'm the only one without either of these things. He's giving me the full amount to put down as a mortgage on a condo. It would be the equivalent of about 1/3 of the price of the condos in my price range. It wouldn't happen until sometime next year and would depend on several factors: whether or not I get a promotion, what my credit looks like, and my financial situation. Also, whether or not I feel ready to do this.

That last one is a biggie. Home ownership is a huge responsibility. Honestly, it freaks me the fuck out. I didn't imagine it even being a possibility for at least another five years. And to go into it alone? Gah. I don't even know. There is so much to consider. But for now I can't make a decision. If I don't get the promotion, this all becomes moot. Even at the top of my current pay range I won't be able to afford this. And I probably won't know about that until September. And I don't actually need to make a decision until May at lease renewal time. So, I can procrastinate for another couple of months.

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